The Flu

It has derailed me for two weeks. d474_7_032_0004_600

My youngest brought it home from middle school and it was a type I was susceptible to. It’s what I get for being cocky because I work in an Elementary school. a62a17df5cf3ba1b47fe202b90d276d7

It spanked me good. I can’t remember the last time I laid around in bed for six days.

SIX days.

It was horrible. It was hitting day five and crying half the night because I was so exhausted, so stuffed up, so worn out, I was sure I’d never be well again.

It’s day eight and I’m almost back to myself.

I had a lot of time to lay around and think, I’ve had some personal realizations I’m excited to blog about. I had a dream in Korean, with sub-titles. Yeah, thanks to Netflix, for the endless supply of K-dramas, and Christiane Amanpour’s: Sex and Love Around the World. And a special little thanks to Shy for my very own bias post… Thanks for contributing to my survival!

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    1. Also – that’s an amazing documentary! I loved the one from Tokyo. It actually gave me a better understanding of the whole ‘boy love’ subject when it comes to k-pop same-gender shipping. My daughter and her friends are HUGE into romantic ships between male idols. A fave seems to be taekook/vkook. And honestly, while I never judged, I also didn’t understand why it was such a big deal. I could almost understand if it was sexual but from young teens, it wasn’t. It was sort of a between bff and innocent romance stance. Rather than a sexual kink (like, I get why men find two women engaging in sexual acts together a turn-on so I understand why some women would enjoy seeing two men egage in each other that way).

      I was stumped though – if these young girls crush after their bias, wouldn’t they want their bias to be interested in the opposite sex? At least if they were bisexual? But no.. my daughter, and her friends agree, if given a chance between dating their bias or seeing their ships date each other, they would rather have the latter.

      It was in that documentary where she speaks to a university professor who’s studied pop-culture and the concept of ‘boy-love’ – this is when they were at that comic store/district with many boy-love genre manga. And she said it had to do with the young women’s sense of security on their own sexuality and then as a sexual being. And how they were not comfortable and/or secure to project themselves as the possible romantic partner of said male protagonist. I’m not sure if my daughter and her friends are facing such insecurities but possibly, they just aren’t ready to see themselves that way and so it is easier for them to take in romance when it’s between two men (and perhaps there’s then also no competition – no jealousy).

      At the same time, the idea of shipping real-life people, had me uncomfortable. I don’t think it’s our business – whether that idol is gay or not, whether they are dating some one or not, etc. They are human beings with the right to their own privacy. So I’ve had talks with her about this as well – that it’s one thing to keep it to herself and among friends but not to engage in that part of the fandom heavily online.

      I gave her the example of Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart – fans of Twilight shipped them so strongly their managers/agencies had them fake-dating. And in a later interview where Stewart, now in a relationship with her girlfriend, spills the beans, it sounded awful for them. A classic case where the fandom forces two real-life people in a very uncomfortable situation.

      Okay – I’ve rambled on enough here… 🙂

      1. I too LOVED the information gleaned from the Tokyo portion. Just like you, it explained so much to me about these ‘ships’ in BTS that I was struggling to understand.
        I can easily see how my daughters are more comfortable shipping their favorite members of BTS, having their bias and avoiding the jealousy and competition. It’s interesting as they engage some of their friends with BTS and watch these new girls sort of stumble when it comes to BTS ‘skin ships’ and such. It’s an admittedly odd situation for our Western sensibilities.
        I totally agree, also, in staying out of that part of the online fandom. There is some crazily inappropriate content for them. My girls haven’t read Twilight yet or seen the movies, but that is a great example.
        I’ve only watched Tokyo, Delhi and Beirut so far, I’m pretty excited for Berlin! I need to dust off my flogger.

        1. I saw only half of Berlin and it’s a little bit more risque. 😉

          The skin-ship seen in k-pop also extends from the Asian culture. It’s totally acceptable to see two good male friends walking down the street linking arms or holding hands. I wish it were like that here in North America. Women can do it – why can’t men? It’s really big deal and has nothing to do with one’s sexual identity. If anything I love that they seem more secure of their sexuality to display such innocent public displays of affection with one another.

          1. At first I was a bit shocked and maybe dismayed by what I was seeing. Then I did a teensy bit of research that opened up this whole world of Asian/Korean culture and skin-ship. It’s absolutely fascinating! I too find it to be so endearing now, I’m quite in love with the innocent quality of their affections. I love that it has also brought my girls hand in hand, skipping along into a world that challenges hateful bias when it comes to acceptable gender-based emotion and gestures. It’s really turned that on it’s head and, I feel, made me a better, more thoughtful and accepting human.

    2. It was horrible! I haven’t really had a true flu bug with all the complimentary body aches, exhaustion, stuffy head, cough, stuffy head again parts, for a few years.
      Mr. Park speeded my recovery exponentially.

  1. Oh no! I got the flu right after Christmas and I was out of commission for a week or so with the cough and sniffles lingering for another week longer. Hope you’re feeling better!

    1. Every day a little improved, hooray! You must have been sick while I was traveling. I don’t remember reading about it. Glad you are back on your feet too!

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